My Beloved Daughters, Relinquish

August 23, 2025

Hello family. So, on the heels of the trials that we had just gone through, we received a wonderful donation from a group in our Heartdwellers family who have faithfully given to us for some time now and has really sustained the ministry. With donations being cut so low now, their help always comes at the right time to sustain us and to support the many people that we help and to continue on with the work for the City of God.

However, this particular time, they were having issues with their bank rejecting the check that was to be sent to us. They tried twice to no avail and said they could now only send us a donation next year. I thought, “Oh no, Lord, we need their help!”. and immediately I knew this was part of the curse assignments they sent to the group. Holy Spirit had me get all the intercessors gathered together to pray to break this assignment so they would have a way to send the funds to us.

So we gathered together to pray and many felt the fire. We knew something broke. That, indeed, the Lord would come through. After prayer I sat before th

e Lord for discernment about something else but he started bringing up other scriptures, several on marriage.

Ephesians 5:22 

Wives, obey your husbands as you obey the Lord.

²³ The husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the church The church is his body and he saved it.

1 Timothy 5:8

Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Ephesians 5:24 

Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

I thought, “Lord, what are you trying to tell me? Is this about me and my beloved or you and me? The Lord made it clear it was about me and my beloved.

As I sat still asking Holy Spirit to help me to understand what the Lord was saying, and to show me the error of my ways, boy did He show it.

As I did my Lord's Supper, the readings cut like a scalpel.

The first reading was a warning for Priests;

Malachi 2:1-7

Additional Warning to the Priests

¹“And now, you priests, this warning is for you. ² If you do not listen, and if you do not resolve to honor my name,” says the Lord Almighty, “I will send a curse on you, and I will curse your blessings. Yes, I have already cursed them, because you have not resolved to honor me.

³ “Because of you I will rebuke your descendants; I will smear on your faces the dung from your festival sacrifices, and you will be carried off with it. ⁴ And you will know that I have sent you this warning so that my covenant with Levi may continue,” says the Lord Almighty ⁵ “My covenant was with him, a covenant of life and peace, and I gave them to him; this called for reverence and he revered me and stood in awe of my name. ⁶ True instruction was in his mouth and nothing false was found on his lips. He walked with me in peace and uprightness, and turned many from sin.

⁷ “For the lips of a priest ought to preserve knowledge, because he is the messenger of the Lord Almighty and people seek instruction from his mouth. ⁸ But you have turned from the way and by your teaching have caused many to stumble; you have violated the covenant with Levi,” says the Lord Almighty. ⁹ “So I have caused you to be despised and humiliated before all the people, because you have not followed my ways but have shown partiality in matters of the law.”

So, in Ghana, there is phrase we say when you are in trouble or something overwhelms you, you say, “Ayeeee!”. So let me say that, after reading this I thought, “Ayeee! My God what have I done? Ooh..

Then the gospel reading was: Warning against hypocrisy you do not practice what you preach.

A Warning Against Hypocrisy

Matthew 23

 Then Jesus said to the crowds and to his disciples: ² “The teachers of the law and the Pharisees sit in Moses’ seat. ³ So you must be careful to do everything they tell you. But do not do what they do, for they do not practice what they preach. ⁴ They tie up heavy, cumbersome loads and put them on other people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger to move them.

⁵ “Everything they do is done for people to see: They make their phylacteries wide and the tassels on their garments long; ⁶ they love the place of honor at banquets and the most important seats in the synagogues; ⁷ they love to be greeted with respect in the marketplaces and to be called ‘Rabbi’ by others.

⁸ “But you are not to be called ‘Rabbi,’ for you have one Teacher, and you are all brothers. ⁹ And do not call anyone on earth ‘father,’ for you have one Father, and he is in heaven. ¹⁰ Nor are you to be called instructors, for you have one Instructor, the Messiah. ¹¹ The greatest among you will be your servant. ¹² For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.

At this point, I felt like toast. With the first readings from Bible Promises about marriage, and now this, I kept thinking, “Lord, how? Show me where I have been partial or instruction others in a way I myself am not doing. Then, after a while, it hit me, as Holy Spirit brought to my attention a conversation and instructions I had been giving a soul. She was really struggling with having her husband have control of their finances and making the decisions for their family. She was the bread winner and it was becoming a big issue in their marriage. I would encourage her to relinquish all and allow the husband to lead and make decisions with the finances because God would bless, and that her real issue was not that she didn’t trust the husband but she didn’t trust God.

As the Holy Spirit brought that to my mind I wondered, “But I discuss everything with my beloved. We budget together and make decisions about the finances when they come in. But I realized I didn’t let him lead. I would tell him what I thought was best and he would naturally agree and share any other needs we had that I didn’t see. I, too, had not relinquished all, and submitted our finances completely over to my beloved to lead in making the decisions for not only the family but the ministry. I was perplexed. As I finally saw my own error, I thought to myself, “Geez, Lord, is it that serious?”

I realized that curse landed because of my lack of submission to Derrick.

Jesus began,

“Submit to your husband in all things, Beloved. Is that not what the scriptures say?”

Yes Lord but you know my arguments about this.

“Yes, I do, Beloved, but your situation is not a unique one… but your husband is, and is called to lead this work the City of God in a unique way. The more you submit and trust him now, the more grace he will be given to submit to Me. When you withhold from him, showing a lack of trust to lead in your finances or your family, it’s truly a lack of trust in Me.

“Did you think I didn’t see and take all the objections you had into consideration? And I have thought through every weakness and strength you both have to put you two together. I knew that what would cause you to be uncomfortable, would rather grow his faith, and what would cause him to be uncomfortable, would rather grow him in greater levels of holiness. You both are the perfect match for one another. With Me in the center, and Me leading the way.

“Your situation is not unique just to you, but many women struggle with this, especially those called to ministry. But I need you to relinquish all control and trust Me, through your husband. You see, My beloved brides, those who may have a greater level of spiritual understanding more than their spouses, their husbands, there is an anointing, a grace, a very special way in which I lead the head of each household. Although your spouses may not pray as much as you do, may not discern the way you do, I do lead them. I do speak to them and I do counsel them. Their headship in the family is an office, and one that I do not take lightly; that many wives, unfortunately do, and try to usurp their spouses to their detriment, and that of their families. Is there warfare around your finances? Is there a struggle that is continuous in your family? Then I want you to ask yourself, have you submitted to your husband in everything? I can even work through the unbeliever because if you have married a man who is not submitted fully to Me to lead and Lord of their lives, I can still work, and do move through them because, again, of the office of being your husband, being your head, there are many graces given to him and My Spirit moves and will lead him.

“I need you to relinquish control, My beloved daughters, you know who you are. Your spouses must learn in trusting Me and they can only do that when you let go of all things and submit yourself under them to lead your families and even your finances. You may be a miser and your husband is a spender. You cringe at the fact that things will not be allocated well. But let go and trust Me. Your role is to pray for your husband, but to submit to them in everything. The only time I ask you not to submit if it’s something that goes against your conscience, will lead to sin. But if it is a direction the family should take, or what should be taken care of with your income, allow him to lead and make those decisions. With your prayers he will navigate the twists and turns set up for him, beautifully.

“You see, My beloved daughters, when the fall came, the sin of self-rightness, pride, and control, took over Eve and that same curse was passed down to all my daughters wanting to be lord over their husbands But it was never meant to be that way, no matter how wise you think you are, how anointed you are, how full of gifts you are. It means nothing to Me nor will it go far if you do not allow your husband to lead you.

“Husbands, it does not mean for you to lord yourselves over wives either, in authority, power and pride You will get nowhere but rather cause tension, resentment, and strife in your marriage. But rather recognize her also, as wisdom that there are many blind spots you have that she can see and many times I use her to talk to you to help you discern the right way to understand My heart and to see things that you have missed. The greatest way to lead, My beloved sons, is in love. That is why in the scriptures, I gave you the instructions to love your wives. My sons, because I knew that would be the greatest difficulty, as satan would bring up every opportunity to cause your hearts to be distracted one way or the other. But if you would love your wives selflessly, unconditionally and faithfully even in her unfaithfulness you would win her entirely over and find yourself with a prize, a beautiful woman whose heart is yielded entirely to yours and to your instructions but it takes great patience and sacrifice.

“That goes the same for you, My daughters. It will take great patience and sacrifice to trust Me by relinquishing all to your beloved husbands in every way. My little one, moving forward, I prefer that he would handle what is most necessary to take care of. Although he doesn’t see himself in ministry or part of the ministry, this is one way I will use him to get involved, to see the weight of the responsibility that I have entrusted to him. When a man is given greater responsibility, it causes him to have greater weight in their decisions because they feel much is relying on them and they want to prove themselves faithfully.. There will be many mistakes but mistakes are necessary to experience, and experience is necessary to wisdom, so trust Me on this one, My beloved little one, and my daughters. Relinquish all to your spouses and I will bless all that you do. You must practice what you preach.”

That was the end of Jesus message

Oh, what a beautiful message, and very convicting. Anyone else in the room? Well… my sisters, pray for me. I’m going to be praying for you guys as well. Lord, give us the grace to truly trust everything and submit everything to our husbands in Jesus' Name, Amen. God bless you until the next message. Amen.

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