Fight For Love Not War

Hello brothers, sisters, and Heartdwellers family.

It was during prayer, that a vision flashed in my mind. I have been discerning if it was from the Lord or not for days now. When I initially went to the Lord in my Bible Promise Book, I got a negative confirmation. But the suggestions kept coming days after and started having me think that it was true. In the past, I would have these things and it would be something being shown to pray about and a confirmation of something that has happened.

This was causing much tension between me and my beloved as resentment and arguments began to rise from [my] wanting to know the truth—but now I realize I just wanted to be right. I had others discern and I started getting confirmations. But there was something that made me very compulsive to want to know—the need to know—and the need to be right—so that I didn’t look crazy. I should have known when I went to the Bible Promise Book excessively throughout the day and got Rhemas upon Rhemas—because I was sure, that I wasn’t sure—or what I was getting wasn’t clear enough.

Finally, when I made up in my mind that it was true and I was brooding, stewing with anger, frustration, and bitterness—I kept getting readings on forgiveness. I finally pulled one last Rhema card out of my card file, this time, upon the third day—weary from the oppression, heaviness, and even sadness of what I was shown, and the card said,

“These thoughts are not from Me the fruit of them is not healthy conviction…but fear and hopelessness, Forget them now! I love you and encourage you. Be vigilant, there is great Hope!”

My heart dropped as I had already accused in my heart, in my mind, and verbally what I thought was to be the truth. I was so relieved—and also disappointed wondering, “Why did I get all the confirmations?” Then I realized I got a lot of mixed readings first—negative ones—but I didnt want to stand on that. There was something that wanted to be right in what I felt. Because usually, I was.

I was about to do the Lord’s Supper when I pulled the card and then I heard Jesus give me these thoughts which I wrote down on new Rhema cards to put in my file.

The first

“These are demons of isolation and false accusation; you have fallen for their lies. Repent and ask for forgiveness”

Then

“Your suspicions are not true. This was a test in love. These tests will keep coming until you always think the best”

I then texted my beloved and apologized for my attitude, and behavior—falsely accusing him of something he didn’t do.

That morning, I had gotten a Rhema message from Mother Clare’s website, and it said, “

Spiritual Warfare, Knowing the Enemy’s Tactics, + a Healthy Marriage

I knew we were under attack but in my pride, I felt He was wrong and was the one who caused the open door. My pride is something else. I think I will share the message after this one because there are many new couples within the Heartdwellers, and in general. Many marriages are facing intense assaults from the devils and if you are weak, like [I am] in many areas, you will fall for them. Even though you know to act in charity, in love, in forgiveness, in patience, this flesh gets fed up and you react. Then comes the open door for the demons to come and sift you both. They always work with one first as an entrance to cause mischief in the marriage, and I fell for it again.

As I was editing this message my heart started hurting and I decided to pull a Rhema and Holy Spirit is quite funny it said

“Most mighty God of Israel, the zealous lover of faithful souls, behold the labor and sorrow of Your servant and stand by me in all my undertakings.

Strengthen me with heavenly fortitude, lest the old man, the miserable flesh, not fully subject to the Spirit, prevail and get the upper hand”

Well, that sums up my life and confirms this message.

So, I came before the Lord.

Lord, I’m wounded, and I am very sorry for my heart attitude, and my thoughts. I could feel the bitterness. Please help me. I am desperately in need of your help and healing. Teach me what it really means to forgive and how to think the best when I am so prone to thinking negatively. Help me, Lord.

Jesus began,

“I am purifying you, Beloved, in the most unique way. That is what I intend to do with all My brides. You have asked, how can one get healed if one continues to be wounded in the same place over and over again.”

Just an aside, guys, I’ve asked the Lord this question because, let’s say you have a wound of trust, or you have a wound of being betrayed, or you have a wound of somebody stealing things from you, or you have a wound of people talking behind your back—and every time you decide to trust the Lord and this particular person, or another person, they do the exact same thing that you feared.

So, let’s say you have an issue of friendships—you have friends who always use you and talk behind your back. You were wounded once. Then you give an opportunity to somebody else, you’re wounded again (and it doesn’t have to be the same person). Then you are wounded again by the same person in the same place, over and over again. It’s so hard to be healed. I’m like, Lord, this doesn’t make sense to me, [as to] why You allow this to happen in the exact same place? Because it’s like I can’t get strengthened or healed because I keep getting wounded. But one Mother Clare always said on the mountain, is that many times when the Lord allows that, whether it’s let’s say, people using you, or talking about you, or maybe somebody took advantage of you in business. It keeps happening over and over again. Mother Clare said that it’s a button. It’s a button that the enemy continues to use in your life as landmines or triggers. And what the Lord is wanting, is for that button to be completely flat. The best way to flatten it is not by Him not allowing it or protecting that particular wound but rather, it’s allowing it to become so wounded that it becomes dead—like the flesh is just dead. So, if it happens again, you don’t respond, you don’t react—there’s nothing, just dead. There’s no feeling there. But it’s a very painful process. Sometimes I don’t understand it. It’s a very painful process but Mother said in that way, that’s what it is, the Lord is deadening the buttons that the enemy continues to use in our lives as triggers—open doors for us. Oh. Help us, Jesus — So, back to the message.

And Jesus continues

“You see healing as when there is no pain. I see healing as when there is no reaction, as the scripture says of my brides, those who fear me

Psalm 112:7

They will have no fear of bad news; their hearts are steadfast, trusting in the LORD.

“I am strengthening you in this way, Beloved, that your heart would be steady, fixed, and trusting in Me. You can go ahead and quote the Proverbs 31 scripture as well It rather adds to My message.

As an aside, I had first put this scripture down but when I googled I realized it was the wrong scripture. After reading it I realized it also fits. It’s funny the Lord, seeing all this, mentions for me to make mention of it still in the message. I thought the scripture He was talking about was…

Proverbs 31:25

She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.

“I am clothing My brides with strength and dignity, that no matter what comes your way, your mouth will be filled with laughter—whether the perils of life hit you or blessings overflow—because you know the One in whom you have put your trust. The One who is your anchor in the midst of the storm and the giver of all things, whether they seem good or bad to you—that I am in control of your life and I will all things for your good.

“You see, My beloved one, this was a test and you have been assailed with demons of false accusation and isolation, to you and your beloved. This is indeed spiritual warfare 101, how the enemy comes to bring division and strife in relationships. They study each of you and know your buttons—that soft spot, where old wounds lie dormant—sometimes even new ones and they hit in the same spot because they always get the same reaction. It works so well. When you respond in frustration, irritation, and resentment, then demons of bitterness come, and false accusations begin to swirl and cause you to assume many things—as the devils mastermind their projections and smoke screens replaying scenes from the past when your accusations and suspicions were right. So, it rather causes you to stand in Pride. The demons love this when they can pit souls against each other by wanting to be right. They get a foothold, and all manner of demons come with them to feed that pride—as demons of anger follow behind to cause the one being accused, to get angry and defensive—which is also pride—to defend oneself. Before you know it, you’re in a bowl of mosh soup with the demons doing a dance with them and the person you are at odds with.

“I sit and watch to see your response. When you do not call on Me immediately I wait to see how you will respond. But more than most, My brides fall right into the trap and that is how arguments, lead to resentment—issues causing a breach within the relationship. It’s small cracks, Beloved, small cracks that form a great divide. Don’t allow the demons to lie to you any longer—that you can argue. Ask for forgiveness and you both can get over things and be fine. Yes, it’s good to reconcile and make up but there is damage in the foundation every time. With every conflict and disagreement demons accompany and many stay and linger long after reconciliation, because there is resentment there, because there was a seed of bitterness that fell during that conflict that could have been avoided. So, they lie in wait until the next opportunity comes, just to take a crack at that breech they caused. So, while after every argument or conflict you have is over and you think you are building a bridge, you are rather patching up a crack in your foundations of charity as the enemy seeks to destroy all that is good.

So that is why it can take just one situation at the right time, coupled with the right accusation lies, and suggestions that can cause a perfect storm and cause an explosion because the enemy has been cracking away at every wrong heart attitude, negative thought, murmuring and complaining which all follows even after you made up within a conflict. That is why I am teaching my brides charity, charity, charity. No, I am not asking for perfection, but I am asking you to be much more watchful, much more diligent, and much more intentional about responding in love and not reacting in your emotions.

You must resist the devils more and more in the times coming. He is coming to cause mayhem in the worst way. To divide relationships and to bring much confusion to groups and communities I have set apart as a remnant. Holy marriages are his last and final target as he desires to wound each couple, so much so that they give up on love, and give up on Me. The intensity of the battle should let you know there is much fruit to be born between the two of you and all of this you know but you are allowing petty circumstances to get in the way and get to you. I say petty because although they trigger you, in the light of what is presented and the consequences of your reactions, it’s not worth it, Beloved. Let it go. Forgive and let it go.

“My beloved brides, if you are having trust issues with someone I want you to trust them anyway. No longer try to guard or protect yourself—love doesn’t do that. Love is ever giving of itself. You can trust me to keep your heart, to defend you, and to bring anything hidden into the light, especially in marriage, because I am in this union too and I want it to work. Nothing goes past me unnoticed, absolutely nothing. And you can trust that the truth will always prevail, but I ask you to believe the best in your spouse. If you have had many trials of disappointment, ask me to heal the wounds of disappointments that have been used by the demons to spin a narrative of ongoing mistrust, resentment, and bitterness which gives room for the demons to have their way with you and in any relationship they desire to attack in this way.

“Forgiveness is the key. Immediate forgiveness and letting go when you’re offended, and the enemy comes with accusations against your spouse or the offender. I want you to respond and say, ‘Lord, I’m offended, I’m getting negative suggestions and accusations about my spouse or this person, but I reject them now, in Jesus’ name. Lord, help me to think the best and see my spouse, or this person in your best light. I will not agree with the enemy—and I ask you to make the truth known, in Jesus’ name. Help me to love my spouse or this person, as you love them. Amen’

“Immediately you will feel relief and the demons will scatter. When they come again say the same prayer as many times as you have to, until you stand in peace and not at war with your thoughts—and definitely not with your spouse. I will help you in this, My little one, and all my brides who find themselves in this predicament.

“Many marriages are under attack, and this is how you can win the battle. Whether it’s your spouse, your child, a loved one, or a co-worker, use this prayer and it will put the demons of false accusation and isolation to flight. Fight the good fight of faith, My beloved ones, and fight for love not for war.”

That was the end of Jesus’ message

Lord, please give us all, especially those of us who are married, heavenly fortitude to have holy and healthy marriages. Help us be wiser than the devils and not allow this flesh to rule when we become offended, irritated, or upset in Jesus’ name. Please, if any of you can relate post in the comment section so I am not the only embarrassed wife here. [Laugh]

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